How To Rediscover Your Feelings For Your Husband

Rummaging through a drawer recently, I found a letter my spouse wrote me several years ago at the very beginning of our courtship. We were both in the doubting phase, yet couldn't deny what was happening. It sparked a memory of newfound love, excitement and exploration. In a flash, all those old feelings came back to me. I'd like to share a God-given gift of appreciation for the honesty, commitment and love of a truly spiritual man: my husband.

Dear Donotfear,

Hi, hope this letter finds you in a happy time in every way. I just wanted to write you and tell you how wonderful a Lady you are to me. I sure did enjoy this weekend with you and look forward to our next opportunity to be together again. I want to make you see how very special and precious you are to me. I feel so lacking when it comes to telling you how I feel. I am so attracted to you that I want to do as much as I can to make you know I see a very beautiful woman every time I look at you, even if you aren’t feeling very beautiful at that particular time. You have beauty that everyone cannot see, particularly inside as well as outside. I find myself daydreaming about you constantly and thinking I really feel like you are the woman I have been searching for. I know I was a fool not to see that from the very beginning.

Please don’t doubt me when I say I love you because I am completely content to be with you any time you and our schedules permit. You will have to forgive my inability to express myself with you. I can see that you have the same problem and both of us will have to overcome our doubts which haunt us because of our past experiences. I hope you will allow me to grow closer and more intimate in every part of your life. My fears are the same as yours in a lot of ways. I don’t want to fall in love and then be cast aside as if I were just a used up toy. That is why I hesitate to tell you I love you.

I have been let down by people who say they love me one day and ignore me the next. I can’t help but think that because you have experienced the same thing you will appreciate me and realize I am sincere in this relationship and have high hopes of a lasting (lifelong) romance that will never stagnate. Please believe me when I say

I love you.

Love and xxx’s, (Spousey)

After reading this letter several times, I found a new soundness within me to bear both the good and the bad until I have nothing left to give.   If ever there was time for renewal, it's now.  Everyone knows that marriage is difficult, tedious and sometimes boring.  It takes work to sustain a relationship over the years.  I can truly say it's the hardest job I've ever had!  A marriage can withstand anything as long as it has a good foundation.  The Word of God, honesty, and commitment are the three main structures for remaining harmonious.  I'm no marriage counselor, for sure.  But I do know this fact:  Marriage isn't about lovey dovey feelings and sex.  It's a partnership between two people who have pledged a promise to each other to build a life together.  Sometimes it doesn't last.  Or maybe the two shouldn't have joined together in the first place.  Whatever the outcome, working together to maintain unity is the key to a succesful life together.  Without both partners contributing, the marriage could be in danger of collapsing.  I pray that sharing this letter may inspire and motivate someone who may have been having doubts about their marriage to re-examine why you joined together in the first place.